What to Do When Life Gets Tough
Do you ever have one of those weeks that tests your resolve? When too many difficult things happen and you doubt your ability to handle all of them? I just had a week like that, with a couple of events in my personal life that knocked me on my ass. Most people only share their highlight reel on social media and I’ve found that doesn’t help me in times of crisis, so for today’s post I’m sharing what has helped me get through the last week.
1. Ask for help - As a recovering perfectionist I am terrible at asking for help. I place a lot of pressure on myself to handle anything that life throws at me all alone. But going to therapy (and reading Brené Brown) has helped me see the error of my ways. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness, and there is bravery in allowing yourself to be vulnerable with others. The biggest insight I’ve gained from doing this is that opening up and asking for help brings other people closer, while always handling it alone puts them at a distance.
I opened up to my mom and a dear friend this week about what I was going through and they both provided such loving support. I am truly thankful to have some amazing people in my life. If you’re also having a tough time know that it’s not only ok to ask for help, but your loved ones will welcome the opportunity to be there for you.
2. Have something to look forward to - Making plans for a fun future event can help when you're having a difficult time. I reached out to a couple of my favorite people this week and made plans to go to the New York State Fair together. The fair is an annual tradition for me and having this event on my calendar is something positive to think about beyond the immediate stuff I’m dealing with.
3. Do something nice for yourself - I went grocery shopping - one of my least-favorite tasks of adulthood - and bought myself a bunch of flowers at the store. They brighten up my space and make me smile. Don’t underestimate the difference a small gesture to pamper yourself can make in your mood. If you’re going through something difficult, take the time to do something nice for yourself, even if it’s as simple as a grocery store bouquet of flowers.
4. Lean in to your routine - I was traveling for a few days last week but getting back to my normal routine has been really therapeutic. Try to prioritize eating well and getting enough sleep during times of crisis. When life throws the unexpected at you it’s tempting to slack off on healthy habits, but recommitting to them can give you the strength you need to handle the tough days.
If the state of your home is the thing that is testing your resolve, it’s ok to ask for help with that, too. When you’re feeling overwhelmed, ask your family to pitch in or call that friend who loves to organize and get rid of things. Or contact me, I’m happy to answer your questions and help get you back on track!
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